Tutti a tavola … con Target Point

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I figli crescono e, prima o poi, a tavola i genitori si trovano di fronte non più i loro bambini, ma degli adolescenti. E così è possibile che chi fino a quel momento ha mangiato senza creare problemi cominci a mettere su il muso. Oppure che non rispetti più le regole e preferisca mangiare prima dell’ora del pasto una confezione famiglia di yogurt anziché rendere onore ai piatti preparati dai genitori.

La tavola da pranzo non dovrebbe tuttavia trasformarsi in uno scenario di lotte di potere né servire ai ragazzi per differenziarsi dai genitori. In simili casi ai genitori possono risultare utili i risultati di uno studio condotto sul campo che ha dimostrato che prima o poi gli adolescenti tornano a mangiare bene come da bambini, al più tardi comunque quando formano una propria famiglia. I genitori possono dunque tranquillamente chiudere entrambi gli occhi se il rampollo privilegia alimenti meno salutari di prima.

Alcuni suggerimenti

  • Continuare a dare il buon esempio. Non bisogna lasciarsi scoraggiare e continuare a dare importanza ai pasti comuni, consumati insieme.
  • Non brontolare. I suggerimenti dati ai figli in merito alle loro abitudini alimentari non servono a niente. Meglio evitarle. In ogni caso ogni cosa che si dice viene sempre accolta male.
  • Parlare la stessa lingua. Spiegare che mangiando bene si mantiene il corpo sano e attivo anche in età avanzata non serve a nulla con i ragazzi. Meglio puntare su altri argomenti, per esempio sul fatto che un’alimentazione sana serve a mantenere la pelle bella e pura o i muscoli, i capelli e le unghie sani.
  • Accettare altri modi di mangiare. I giovani hanno sempre fame e tendono a svuotare il frigo. Questo è un fatto che va accettato. Per evitare di rimanere senza ingredienti per un pranzo in famiglia o per una cena tra amici è importante mettere al sicuro gli alimenti chiave oppure denominarli in modo chiaro che non vengano presi.
  • Cucinare insieme. Una buona idea è quella di far cucinare gli adolescenti almeno una volta alla settimana oppure di coinvolgerli nella preparazione di qualche piatto. In questo modo si fa leva sul loro senso di responsabilità e di indipendenza.

Fonte: famigros.migros.ch

Target Point, Italian Ideas

 

Y’all down at the table … with Target Point

Over the last 20 years, dozens of studies have confirmed what parents have known intuitively for a long time: Sitting down for a nightly dinner is good for the spirit, the brain and the body. Research shows that shared meals are tied to many teenage behaviors that parents pray for: reduced rates of substance abuse, eating disorders and depression; and higher grade point averages and self-esteem. For young children, conversation at the table is a bigger vocabulary booster than reading aloud to them. The icing on the cake is that kids who eat regular family dinners grow up to be young adults who eat healthier and have lower rates of obesity.

  • It doesn’t have to be daily.

You don’t have to have dinner every night to reap the benefits. It could be breakfast, a weekend brunch, a take-a-break-snack at night or a combination of these. And there’s no magic number. The point is to make a commitment to a family meal where everyone sits down to share food, have fun and talk about things that matter.

  • Play with your food.

With so much of our play now conducted online, adults and children have lost the opportunity to play with real objects that can be touched, smelled and transformed. So play together. Cooking is an activity that still involves our senses and our hands, and it is something we still can do together. You can set out salad fixings and have everyone choose vegetables to create faces, trees and cars. Play with taste by slipping in a new flavor or spice and asking everyone to guess the ingredients.

  • It’s doable.

Despite parent’s hectic work schedules and kids’ busy extracurricular activities, it’s very doable to have nightly dinner. The whole process of cooking and eating together can take just an hour (less than 30 minutes to cook and the average meal is 22 minutes*), and that hour is transformative. If we still planted vegetables, played instruments for our entertainment and quilted on the front porch, we might not need family dinners, but it’s the most reliable time of day that we have to connect with one another. When kids feel connected to their parents, it’s like a seatbelt on the potholed road of childhood.

  • Try new activities and share talents.

Dinner can be a great place to try out new behaviors. A family dinner is like an improvisatory theater performance. The family shows up night after night, and as a group they can try out new ways of interacting with one another. Or, one member’s behavior can set off a cascade of others. For example, a family might agree to refrain from making any negative comments at the table and see what happens. Or, a teenager might be invited to make a family dinner or to create a musical soundtrack for the meal.

  • Share your family history.

The dinner table is the best place to tell stories, and kids who know their family stories are more resilient and feel better about themselves. Most inspiring are lemonade-from-lemon stories, stories about adversity where a lesson is learned, or negative events that transform into something good. Stories help us make sense of the world, and they help kids connect to something bigger than themselves. Tell stories about yourself and other family members when they were the same age as your children. Tell stories about romance, first jobs, immigration, how names were chosen, a childhood pet, a favorite recipe or kitchen disaster.

  • Stay connected.

Table conversation is one of the richest language experiences you can provide for your children. When else do we sit and talk for several minutes, offering lots of comments and explanations on one topic? Try asking questions that go beyond, “How was your day?” For example, instead ask everyone to tell a rose (something positive) and a thorn (something negative) about the day, as well as a bud (what you wish will happen tomorrow).

  • It’s good for you, too.

Rituals like dinner, which punctuate a world that often feels frenzied and out of control, are good for adults, too. Knowing that one part of your day is going to unfold in basically the same way, day after day, is comforting.

Source: www.parenting.com

Target Point, Italian Ideas

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